Family Constellation Therapy

Description

“Half of your being consists of your mother and half of your being consists of your father. You are here because of them; if they were not here you would not be here. All that is happening to you is, in a way, because of them … One has to become aware of this … So whatsoever they have done, you have to feel grateful for. And whatsoever is happening to you and will happen to you, they remain the cause, they remain your foundation. So don’t forget the foundation, that’s all.” – Osho Family Constellations is an effective and powerful method to recognize the systemic family entanglements (including our owns) in the family of origin as well as in the present family. When we combined with Somatic Experiencing® Trauma work it becomes a complete integration in the healing process in body mind and soul. This work is not only to uncover a destructive family dynamic but to heal the fragmented side of our family dysfunction interjected in us. Set as group work and using the responses of the representatives in their positions, the family structure and the relations between family members can be modified to establish a new, more natural and healing balance for the whole system. Love in a family system flows best when a certain systemic ‘order’ is respected. In Family Constellations we try to discover these ‘orders’ or laws and make them visible. Family Constellation is rooted in the understanding that through acknowledging of what is and becoming aware of our basic entanglements, we are able to move beyond family. Our way of relating becomes more open, conscious and flexible. More About Family Constellations… Systemic Family Therapy has been developed by a German therapist Bert Hellinger. In this psychodynamic therapeutic approach, we consider the individual not as a separate unit, but as part of a greater whole, a family system. His individual behaviour, his feelings and attitudes have to be understood in the context of this larger group. Like in any other system there are laws operating in a family system, which guide the individual’s behaviour and to a large extent are unspoken and the individuals are even unaware of them. Often if one or more members of the family system unconsciously violate these archaic laws or ‘orders’ (‘order’ has to be understood not in a moralistic sense). This happens mostly out of love, but a ‘blind love’. Correction and or amendment is necessary so that authentic love can be seen, expressed and lived.